[caption: screenshot of a tweet from @flimflamberge “My little Otyugh” that says “Fiction: Villains all have severe trauma that shaped them. Real lfie: the worst people are always those who have never suffered.” from 5 oct 2018]
This! This is why I start cursing like a sailor the minute someone brings up aaaallll the things we the people can do to stop climate change.
Spoiler: it’s nothing. Oh, sure, you can recycle your trash, but that doesn’t mean much when it all ends up getting burned anyway because our economy doesn’t have anywhere near the capacity to deal with the sheer mass of trash, and no interest in doing so. Like, “sure, our company could switch to environmentally friendly packaging, but that’d mean we’d have to change things and it might cost us a whole cent more per article and that’s just not viable you know, so sorry.”
Or, yes, you can absolutely bike to work instead of driving, but your CO2 emissions are nothing against what big companies blow into the atmosphere every second. Nothing.
Or, yes, you can absolutely grow bee-friendly plants in your yard, but that won’t save them.
By all means, be environmentally conscious! In fact, I strongly encourage you to be! But let’s be real here, our individual footprints on this planet aren’t what’s killing it. Big Industry is.
Same with food/water waste!! It annoys me so much when commercials and gov’t campaigns emphasize individual waste when corporations are doing the OVERWHELMING majority of the wasting.
“The Earth is not dying, it is being killed, and those who are killing it have names and addresses.”
this might sound callous to some of y’all but being an abuse survivor doesn’t mean that every time someone writes a story with abuse in it is about you or your abuse or has anything to do with you at all.
unless someone is specifically writing about YOU and YOUR life story then they are not writing about you. they are not writing about your abuse. a writer is not writing about anyone’s abuse except for whatever character has been or is being abused in their story (or, perhaps, they are writing about their own abuse and working that out through those characters). for you to then come to them and say “stop writing about my abuse” makes…no sense.
the story is not about you.
the characters in that story are not you.
the writer likely does not even know you or anything about you.
being an abuse survivor does not mean you have the Ultimate Authority on who can/cannot write about abuse or how they can/cannot write about it. it does not mean that every story featuring abuse is about you and your individual experiences. it does not mean that every story that features abuse in a way you don’t like is a personal attack on you.
it is, point blank, not about you at all. it’s about the writer and the characters they write. they don’t know you at all and you, your abuse, and anything else about you are no a factor in their writing.
is an absolutely valid reason to not want to date someone.
People had the nerve to call me shallow for this.
By the way, it’s also totally cool to turn someone down without explaining your reasons. You are not interested, no will suffice. Do not feel pressured to explain your decisions to someone else.
Stressed, Depressed, and Story Obsessed 