i genuinely hope anyone ages 13-15 on this website (or, god forbid, younger) stays safe and keeps their private information secure and really private
please, if you’re really young on tumblr, try not to get swept up in the discourse and the tremendous amount of arguing with strangers that goes on here. i know you probably feel mature for your age but this website, like, really psychologically affects youth, and i encourage you to be cautious about your interactions with people on here
please, kiddos, stay safe
additionally, for my young, non-adult followers,
- depression memes about wanting to die aren’t a healthy coping mechanism and can lead to worsening symptoms of your own mental health if overindulged in
- you are not garbage. or trash. i know these terms are popular on here, but you shouldn’t be calling yourself that. you have everything you need inside of you to become your best self, even if it’s hard to see that
- seriously, really don’t trust adults who want to date you. don’t trust adults who call you hot, flirt with you, ask you sexual questions, or ask you for nudes. (that last one is VERY illegal, also, please get help from a trusted non-creepy adult if this happens to you)
- the opinions of complete strangers who aren’t interacting with you typically aren’t worth it. move on, use the block button. it’s not worth engaging with people who are going to make you feel awful or unsafe
- take breaks from tumblr if it’s getting really stressful for you. talk to friends if you’ve got em, play a videogame or do whatever it is that can take your mind off the massive amounts of Hell on this website
- recovery is good. it’s really, really good. if you’re having mental health issues, please seek out help if you can, or ask a trusted adult or friend for guidance. you are not alone. don’t let this website make you feel like you are
Tag: self care
also people really seem to think that specifically children with adhd will suddenly become not distractable if you remove distractors like phones which is very much not the case lol they just zone out you idiots.
my parents did this with homework and i would sit there zoned out till 10 pm not doing shit because they turned the internet off
Neurotypical people tend to not understand that my ability to focus on something I’m not particularly motivated to do will increase tenfold if I can have a secondary task or background distraction with which to pair it. So, for example, if I’m in a boring meeting or have to listen to a webinar or something, my ability to stay tuned in to what’s being said will actually improve greatly if I’m simultaneously allowed to play a game or colour. Likewise, if I have a boring work project that involves inputting data into spreadsheets or something of that nature, I absolutely need to be able to listen to a podcast whilst I work. People think these sorts of things are signs of not being invested, but for me, it’s the difference between engagement and zoning out.
Also see: why I need music to work.
Here’s some fucking advice yall:
- Middle school is worse than high school.
- High school is worse than college.
- No one fucking knows what they’re doing, we’re all just faking it and pretending we understand so people will respect us but if you tell us we’re doing it wrong, you’re probably right because rarely does someone know better.
- You will find something you like to do that you can make money doing.
- You’re going to find friends that aren’t going to fucking wreck you.
- You’re not always going to live in the hell hole that you’ve known for so long.
- It’s going to get better, but I’ll be honest, it doesn’t always stay better, but it gets better again. Bad times are just times that are bad. They don’t stay. Everything is fucking temporary.
- Just fucking watch your favorite TV shows, tell ppl you love them when you do, and don’t play games with emotions because it ends up hurting like hell.
- And eat dessert when you want it.
- And know you ALWAYS deserve better.
Reblogging because I had a long fucking day and need something nice to make me feel better
self-care is spending 90% of your day absorbed in fictional worlds/characters to avoid thinking about or engaging with your very real problems

Free time, abolish work
I love that socialists simultaneously are anti-work, but also want all things required for living provided for.
It’s almost as if the vast majority of work today serves the needs of capital instead of our own and is geared towards producing profit instead of anything useful
On the Phenomenon of Bullshit Jobs, by David Graeber
Therapy showed me that if someone never cares how they hurt me , it doesn’t matter if they swear up and down they love me, they don’t, if they loved me they’d stop hurting me, they’d check up on me. They wouldn’t keep spitting poison just because they know I’ll take it. They wouldn’t keep accusing me of things knowing my anxiety is already off the charts because of their gaslighting,they wouldn’t make me cry and say “just get a therapist it’s not my problem “.
I shouldn’t beg for compassion.
I honestly believe that people who lost their childhood, teenage years to mental illness and/or trauma are so strong for still being here. Especially once you’re about 18-25 and trying to relearn how to be in society and healthy and human.
Especially when you decide to work towards getting better.
Especially when your life isn’t where you wished it would be.
Stay alive okay? If you lost your youth, I’m sorry and I’m so proud of you for still being here. Keep fighting. Your best years are ahead of you.
please make sure that wherever you’re at in life, you don’t treat it like a transitory period. don’t waste your college years wishing to already be graduated & have a job. don’t waste your single years wishing for someone to be in love with. if/when those things come, they will come in due time and they will be good. but there is nothing like looking back and feeling empty because you wasted literal years ignoring what you had because you were hoping for something better. while it’s important to better yourself and reach for your goals, don’t neglect the present because that’s where you are now and it’s your now that determines your future.
Resources and Advice for Depressed Authors
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Four Tips for Writing When You Are Depressed: Exactly what it says on the tin.
– If routines help you, but you struggle to establish one with writing, you may just be expecting too much. Set an intentionally small goal, whatever that may look like for you, but then focus on reaching that goal every day. You may discover that when you aim for a light word count each day, you are able to overshoot your goal on many days, but still be able to reach it on the worst days. This in turn makes it easier to avoid self-judgement if you’re still working on the whole treating-yourself-kindly thing. Avoid sharing the specifics of this goal with people, especially people who write easily and people who have overblown confidence in your abilities as a writer, because nothing takes the accomplishment out of writing every day for 3 weeks in a row for the first time in your life like your dad saying, “Only xxx words a day?”
– Why Writers are Prone to Depression: a discussion of several famous depressed authors, some theories about why authors are disproportionately likely to be depressed, and some lifestyle choices that could potentially help a little.
– “’Getting’ Yourself to Write” – an entreaty to stop and consider why you might be avoiding writing in the first place, a criticism of writing advice that focuses only on developing unquestioning self-discipline, some advice for treating yourself kindly as an author, and one of the most mindful Tumblr posts I have ever read. A round of snaps for @wrex-writes, everybody.
– Why You Should Let Your First Draft Suck and some advice for getting your inner critic to shut up and get on with it until you can at least finish the first draft.
– Why You Don’t Need To Worry About Hating Your Own Work: some potential explanations for why you hate your own work, and some ways to re-contextualize it.
– How to Stay on Task: This is, technically, a guide for adults with ADD, not authors with depression, but I for one seem to have developed the concentration of a goldfish as some sort of bizarre coping mechanism for dealing with di/stress, so I believe it may be helpful anyway.
– Try writing in 15- to 20-minute bursts.
– 10 Affirmations for Creative Writers: Some basic writing affirmations, how affirmations work, and some advice to creating your own specific affirmations. (In addition to their tips, here’s one from me: the subconscious doesn’t respond to negations, so phrase your affirmations in ways that avoid words like “not” or “don’t.” For example, “I can stay on task!” will work better than “I won’t be distracted!”)
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That’s it for now. Y’all know the drill: If you have moderate to severe depression, seeking a good therapist and possibly taking medication are the best things that you can do to manage your depression. Still, I don’t know how much writing-specific advice general therapists can give. I’ve never asked.
Also, even if you’re not clinically depressed, or don’t know if you’re depressed, these resources may still be helpful to you if you, too, want to write but have difficulty concentrating, lose motivation halfway through all your projects, and/or hate your own work despite previous excitement or positive feedback….
which all lowkey sound like symptoms of depression to me tbh, but who am I to label you when I can’t even confidently label myself?So go forth and accept yourselves and your work, darlings, and add on to this if you want because Azar knows I need the help too! ❤Ohhh awesome list! And not just cuz I’m on it 🙂
