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REBLOG TO SAVE YOUR QUEER HEART FROM BREAKING

I’ve seen a bunch of people in the notes concerned (like I was) of comparisons of members of the lgbt to dogs: but upon visiting their website I was reassured that they monitor a variety of content, including (but not limited to):

THIS IS A GOOD SITE

Yeah, this site is literally so people can check for content they don’t want to see…or in some cases content that would make them physically or mentally ill. (I have strobe issues myself…)

It’s highly useful for a lot of people.

I had no idea they warned for strobe effects, that’s awesome! They give me headaches and nausea.

Link for those unfamiliar: https://www.doesthedogdie.com/

They frequently add more categories, it seems – there have been more added just about every time I’ve visited the site. And they’re clearly open to suggestions, as the twitter exchange in the OP shows 😀

Rant: Foodsterism

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I have a culinary degree, and have worked as a professional cook, and have been a restaurateur. The “gastronomer” in my url is quite serious. I have Opinions about how people use the word chef (”chef” is a job title, it’s a French word that means “boss” and is a cognate of chief; only someone who actually runs a quality kitchen should be called a chef – you can’t be a “home chef”), about how “spaghetti bolognese” is used (it’s not just any spaghetti with meat sauce, Bolognese is a specific style that includes beef, pork and pancetta), about what a proper key lime pie is like (don’t even get me started).

Because of this, people expect me to be a food snob. I am NOT. You like what you like, and you should eat what you like, and anybody who looks down their nose at you for it isn’t a “foodie”, they’re a fucking asshole. You like Li’l Smokies in your box mac’n’cheese? Right on! You like Taco Bell? So do I! Let’s go get a crunchwrap and a gordita! You buy cheap pink box wine? Sure, I’ll have a glass with you, if you’re offering.

I have food I don’t like, and food I will offer what I find more enjoyable alternatives to (oil packed canned tuna has a very fine taste, while water pack tends to wash out the richer flavors), but hey, if you like the stuff I don’t, you eat that all you want!

I want to make fresh, delicious, high quality ingredients available to everyone, but don’t you dare take away my $1.99 “chocolate” covered waxy-tasting mini donuts! I will fight you!

Foodie-ism has stopped being about just enjoying food for yourself, and has, far too often, started being about sneering at the food other people like. It’s food hipsterism. And it’s bullshit. It’s often classicist and racist and ableist/healthist as well.

Don’t pull that shit around me. I will take you the fuck apart.

Okay, but what IS a proper key lime pie? And what isn’t? I presume it’s not just a lemon pie but with lime-flavored or lime-based filling instead of lemon?

Now you’ve got me curious.

You got me started.

OK, first of all, a key lime pie is NOT made with “regular” (Persian) limes. It is made with key limes, aka Mexican limes. They are smaller than Persian limes, about the size of a ping pong ball. They’re also not a deep green, but more of a yellow-green, and the juice is yellowish. They are considerably tarter than Persian limes, and have a distinctive flavor. They’re also kind of a pain to juice if they’re not fresh-picked, so personally I always buy bottled up here in Seattle. (I’m from Florida, where part of the year you can get good ones from groves or even off your own backyard tree.) Nellie and Joe’s Key West Lime Juice is the only brand I know and trust, and if your grocery store doesn’t have it, Amazon does.

A key lime pie is a custard pie made from key lime juice, egg yolks, and typically sweetened condensed milk, in a graham cracker crust (none of your bullshit butter cookie crusts, save that for some other, appropriate, kind of pie). Traditionally, you *can* put meringue on top, but only to use up the egg whites you separate from the yolks. It’s not fucking lemon meringue pie, there should not be a huge mound. Personally I don’t like wet French meringues (made with granulated sugar, as opposed to Italian meringues, which are made with syrup), I think they feel like sweetened snot in my mouth. You can also add a small amount of sweetened whipped cream when you plate it, but only a dollop.

A key lime pie should never, EVER be green. If it is, the baker doesn’t know what the fuck they’re doing, and you should skip it. Even a custard pie made with Persian limes shouldn’t be green, ffs.

A key lime pie SHOULD be both very sweet and very tart, as well and very smooth and creamy. My personal standard for the flavor is that when you take a bite, the first thing you taste should be the creamy and the sweet, and then the tart should hit you, but your mouth shouldn’t pucker until you take a sip of water and wash the sugar away.

A key lime pie filling should not contain flour, starch, gelatin, or other stabilizers. It should be as simple as possible. Key lime pie, historically, is poor people food from the Florida Keys, using the basic ingredients they had lying around: limes from the backyard, eggs from the chickens (they still run around loose on Key West), a can of sweetened condensed milk, some graham crackers, sugar and butter for the crust. You’d stir it up, pour it into the pie shell, pop it in the over with dinner, pull it out and stick it in the icebox (with literal ice) to cool, eat it the next night. (Unless you used a no-bake version, where the key lime juice itself denatured and “chemically cooked” the egg yolks. But it’s too easy to get salmonella that way these days, in the US.) They’re meant to be simple, dammit.

Key lime pie was the kind of thing they made in shotgun shacks. (Which frequently look a little different in the Keys than they do in those pics. The hallways often have rooms built off both sides of the hallway, and the roof’s peak sometimes runs perpendicular to the hallway, and then additional sections might get added to the back as the family grew, leading to rooflines like ^^^^.) Just a bit of history.

So then. Key Lime Pie Recipe Time! This is the recipe my family has always used, it’s the recipe I used in my restaurant, it always gets rave reviews, and it is thoroughly authentic. Because I hate meringue, it does not include meringue.

You will need:

Hardware:

one mixing bowl

one wooden spoon, stirring spatula, or spoonula

one liquid measuring cup

one small bowl for separating eggs into

one graham cracker pie crust, recipe to follow, or use a store-bought one, I don’t care

Ingredients:
1 – 12oz can sweetened condensed milk
3 egg yolks
½ cup key lime juice

Preheat the oven to 350F.

Mix those things together until smooth. Don’t beat them hard, you’ll incorporate air into the mix, that will mess up your texture and give you bubbles. When it is completely smooth, your oven should be hot, stick your filling in the fridge for a little while. Pre-bake your crust for 15 minutes, trust me, it is so much better if you do this. Do this even if it’s a store bought crust. If you don’t, your crust can get soggy. Pull it out, let it cool 10 minutes. Pour in the filling, bake 15 minutes. Pull it out. Let it cool for 30 minutes of a countertop, then stick it in the fridge for at least four hours, preferably overnight. Share and enjoy. (Or eat it all yourself.)

Graham cracker crust recipe:

You will need:

Hardware:

one mixing bowl
one glass bowl to melt butter in
one gallon ziplock OR a food processor
a wooden spoon

Ingredients:

1/3 of a box of graham crackers
1 stick butter
1/2c sugar
one 9″ pie plate
one heavy glass with a smooth flat bottom

Dump the graham crackers into the gallon ziplock or work bowl of your food processor. If using a bag, crush them up real good, until you have a lot of fine meal and some small pieces. If you’re using the food processor, break them up roughly, then pulse until you get the same thing.

Put them in the mixing bowl. Add the sugar, and stir to combine. Melt your butter. Mix that in. It should reach the consistency of wet sand, like you’re making a sandcastle. If you pick some up in your hand and squeeze it in your fist, it should hold its shape until you poke it.

Press this firmly into the bottom and up the sides of your pie plate. Then use the bottom of your glass to press it in even more firmly. Really compact it. Then bake it as above.

Great all-purpose graham cracker crust recipe, good for cheesecake too.

If you lose track of this recipe, look on the bottle of Nellie and Joe’s, that’s where we got it!

If you want to get really ridiculous and over the top, make a triple batch of filling and put it in the same crust. That’s what we did at the restaurant. But you might want to find someone to share the slice with!

There. I told you, don’t get me started. It’s a whole fucking thing with me. In the restaurant, if somebody asked in the key lime pie was authentic, the servers would go, “Oh, the owner’s from Florida, she has a thing about key lime pie. I can go get her if you like, she’s got a whole rant. It’s really funny.” And they would go get me out of the office and I would do a whole little standup bit about key lime pie. Much shorter than this was. I just wrote like 1200 words on this. I could write more. I won’t. I’m done.Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk?

I have never liked key lime pie.

Apparently I’ve been eating bad key lime pie and need to home make some asap.

Thank you, random chef on the internet. You may have saved key lime pie in this household yet.

I would also like to say thank you to random internet chef for:

1. Defending the right of people to like what they fucking please, and smacking down classist bullshit.

2. Giving me a fantastic key lime recipe. My dad used to make it properly. He died some years ago, and I could never find a recipe for it. But this looks very, *very* similar to the spread I used to see in his kitchen when he was making it. I’m going to try it, and if it’s even remotely similar to his, I will sit there happily sobbing into my key lime pie. Thank you.

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heka-writes:

So there are a lot of videos with this title. And this topic has been discussed since I was in high school (2012); so basically a long time. The main point these videos seem to be making is that:

1) Making a female character fight or do other traditionally “masculine” things is not automatically going to make them a good character.

2) Many times fans dislike more feminine female characters for being feminine, and that being feminine doesn’t mean a female character can’t be well-written. What determines a strong female character is her development, flaws, story arc, etc etc.

Obviously, I agree with both these points. Many of my favorite female characters do take on more support roles rather than fighting roles (Anastasia from OUATIW, Mai from Yugioh: Duel Monsters, the Pretty Little Liars cast from the books, Elena from TVD S1 + S2 (when she took the damsel in distress role more than in later seasons. Ironically enough I didn’t like her in later seasons at all.))  I have seen many examples of authors trying to make up for their female character’s lack of development by giving them power ups (Sakura from Naruto is the main example. She was nothing but pairing fodder for the whole series and the author tried to make up for it at the very end by giving her a surprising power up out of nowhere ). So what exactly is my problem with the abundance of these videos?

Let’s look at some of these “masculine” females:

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All of these girls/women…are super feminine. All of them have long hair, tightly fitted suits, Hollywood makeup, and sometimes even high heels. From what I know, most of them are also straight.

Yes, despite what a LOT of people are saying, most of these protagonists are super “feminine” but just have the few characteristics of “masculinity” such as fighting. There’s also the issue of some of them being emotionally stoic rather than complex, but somehow that makes them “masculine”. It doesn’t, it just means they are badly written with a few traditionally masculine traits like fighting. The best written male characters are those who are emotionally complex as well; it doesn’t have anything to do with “femininity”.

Honestly, if the YA community views these women as “masculine”, how would they respond to a butch lesbian?

Or how they would respond to women who ACTUALLY don’t look traditionally “feminine” :

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What I’m basically saying is this: No, there is not an abundance of “masculine” female characters, or those who defy gender norms as I’d rather like to say. If anything, we need more female characters who genuinely do defy gender norms outside of just fighting and are also well written.

If you’ve noticed, I’ve been putting “feminine” and “masculine” in quotes this whole time, and I’ll explain why. 

A lot of people have said something along the lines of this (paraphrased) quote:

“These female characters who fight are basically showing that women have to act like men to be empowered”

No, women who defy gender norms are not “acting like men”. Women who fight, don’t wear makeup, play video games, refuse to have children, don’t like to cook, etc are acting like women who don’t follow traditional gender roles. They are not acting “like men” because men do not own any of these traits. Masculinity and femininity are just social constructions of gender.  Aka gender roles. When you say that women who don’t adhere to gender roles are “acting like men” you are perpetuating gender roles and being sexist. Most of the people I have seen in these videos or articles call themselves feminists…but feminism is completely opposed to enforcing these types of gender roles.

Obviously there is a lot of grey area in certain aspects of gender. Some neuroscientists claim there is no “female brain”, other specialists say there are some differences, but telling women that we need to “act more feminine” or ladylike is probably the epitome of archaic misogyny. It also leads way to telling women who are tomboys or GNC that they have “internalized misogyny” for not conforming. You may as well tell me to get back in the kitchen.

Yes, there are good traits that are demonized for being traditionally feminine. Childcare and cooking are often times taken for granted despite the amount of skill they require. Nonviolence isn’t as popular in mainstream media because violence is more flashy. These are traits we should be promoting more of, for both sexes.

But let’s not forget when gender roles were created; they were created in societies where women were men’s property as a guidance for telling women how to behave and as a way to tell men how to keep women in line. There needs to be some criticism and separation from those negative aspects of femininity. We need less women fighting in high heels, we need less nerdy girls getting makeovers. We need more women in relationships with other women. We need to emphasize the importance for women to learn self-defense, instead of letting them think these situations will never happen to them.

Criticizing femininity is not the same thing as hating on women who are feminine, because femininity is a role put upon women, not womanhood in itself. 

As a last note; the definition of femininity differs from culture to culture. In Middle Eastern/South Asian culture (where I am from) women aren’t encouraged to wear makeup or revealing clothes, but rather cover from head to toe. Cats aren’t considered “female” pets, video games aren’t considered boy games etc. How can femininity be innate if it’s different across the world? Which is the innate one?

All I’m saying is that the concept of femininity can and should be criticized, and that we need more genuinely gender nonconforming females who are well written. We can do that without bashing feminine women or characters, and we can do that while creating complex female characters.

@melinapendulum have been following you forever would love to know your thoughts!

Thank you! It’s part of this nonsense of ‘misogyny is hatred of the feminine’. 

Every time I see a female character fighting in heels I want to stab a man.

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DONT ASK ME THIS, THIS IS HOW THE TROJAN WAR STARTED, I DONT WANT THIS MAN

Right away, Aphrodite popped into my head.

And then I’m just like, “DAMMIT, DID YOU LEARN NOTHING FROM PARIS? YOU ARE AN EMBARRASSMENT, AND NOW ALL THE TROJANS ARE DEAD. I HOPE YOU’RE HAPPY.”

If you are ever actually in this situation, pro-tip: name Persephone.  Half the goddesses will be too surprised to smite you immediately and while Hades won’t do you any favors he may at least high-five you while your on your way down.

Another tip: name Mesperyian. Not only will you shock everyone, including her (since Aphrodite was a jealous ho who burnt half her face off), but you’ll win Hades’ favour. As his most beloved daughter, anything that praises her will make you a kind human to her, an okay human to him, and a genuinely good person to anyone else.

I heartily endorse this alternative answer.

I love how all of this advice leads to “please Hades at all costs.”

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#because Hades really wasn’t that bad

No shit. The only real villain that caused so many problems was Zeus’ Thunder Cock and that thing has been in Olympus-knows-what. 

ZUES’S THUNDER COCK

To be fair, Poseidon was like the greek mythology personification of the phrase ‘BITCH, FIGHT ME’

reblogging for BROseidon and FIGHT ME

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Marco Arment sucks at GDPR.

Hey!? I tried to reblog THIS POST today, funnily enough to complain about having the exact same problem. (I’m in the UK btw.)

Here’s what happened when I tried to reblog it on desktop: (I thought maybe @golbatgender had blocked me, but I was still able to follow them and reblog another of their posts.)

So I tried replying on mobile instead. No such luck. Here’s what happened when I tried to send the post or save it as a draft in the iOS app. Only this time it was much more annoying because these nasty little errors don’t show up until after you’ve finished writing.

Note that it is only this post that does it. Other posts work fine. So, not points for guessing what happened when I tried to reblog it on the mobile website.

@staff Are you fucking joking or what?!?

This may or may not be related to GDPR, but I have also found I can’t view any page at all on anyone’s blog without this clusterfuck website redirecting me to tumblr.com/dashboard. What the fucking fuck?

I have tried logging in with two accounts, three different browsers, and incognito mode. None of these did anything at all until I realised I could fix it temporarily with Hola VPN.

And while this is almost certainly unrelated to Tumblr, I do find it amusing this would happen on the same day that Instapaper, another site created by Marco Arment, decides to come back online after two months of shitting the bed with regards to GDPR.

Pictured: the page that European Instapaper users had to look at for TWO FUCKING MONTHS.

And as much as it is tempting to blame it on deliberate sabotage, I think that for both websites it was just a case of pure incompetence. Instapaper for one thing was so badly managed by its parent company, understaffed, didn’t have any idea how it wanted to make money… sounds very similar to Tumblr when you put it that way!

And no, while Marco doesn’t work at either of them anymore, he might just have left in some faulty code. Something like this perhaps?

1) If GDPR() = true; run command ShitTheBed.exe

2) Goto 1

I mean… I’m no programmer, but I imagine this is basically how this works. Right?

When this is fixed, I just know something in gonna go wrong with Overcast, Marco Arment’s latest project. Luckily all my podcasts are stored in Pocket Casts which is the superior app in my opinion. THERE, I SAID IT.

I can say for sure you weren’t blocked. (I manually blocked and then unblocked you just now, so you may need to refollow me if you were doing so before–it was the only effective way I had to check if I’d blocked you or not.)

Apparently Tumblr’s attempt to comply with GDPR is “force all European accounts to view everything as private, dashboard-only.” Maybe this means their data doesn’t wind up in the “sell to everyone” feed, and Tumblr couldn’t be bothered to figure out how to actually sort the incoming data.

Tumblr is, unfortunately, within its rights to restrict access for European users, if it wants. However, it’s still failing at GDPR compliance, which is not based on “people with European IP addresses,” but “European residents and citizens,” wherever they happen to be, no matter what software they’re using.

Sorting users by IP address is not going to work for long; I’m sure there’ll be a nice lawsuit along soon from EU citizens living in the US, whose data is still subject to EU laws.

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IT’S NOT ‘PEEKED’ MY INTEREST

OR ‘PEAKED’

BUT PIQUED

‘PIQUED MY INTEREST’

THIS HAS BEEN A CAPSLOCK PSA

THIS IS ACTUALLY REALLY USEFUL THANK YOU

ADDITIONALLY:

YOU ARE NOT ‘PHASED’. YOU ARE ‘FAZED.’

IF IT HAS BEEN A VERY LONG DAY, YOU ARE ‘WEARY’. IF SOMEONE IS ACTING IN A WAY THAT MAKES YOU SUSPICIOUS, YOU ARE ‘WARY’.

ALL IN ‘DUE’ TIME, NOT ‘DO’ TIME

‘PER SE’ NOT ‘PER SAY’

THANK YOU

BREATHE – THE VERB FORM IN PRESENT TENSE

BREATH – THE NOUN FORM

THEY ARE NOT INTERCHANGEABLE


WANDER – TO WALK ABOUT AIMLESSLY

WONDER – TO THINK OF IN A DREAMLIKE AND/OR WISTFUL MANNER


THEY ARE NOT INTERCHANGEABLE (but one’s mind can wander)

DEFIANT – RESISTANT
DEFINITE – CERTAIN

WANTON – DELIBERATE AND UNPROVOKED ACTION (ALSO AN ARCHAIC TERM FOR A PROMISCUOUS WOMAN)

WONTON – IT’S A DUMPLING THAT’S ALL IT IS IT’S A FUCKING DUMPLING

BAWL- TO SOB/CRY

BALL- A FUCKING BALL

YOU CANNOT “BALL” YOUR EYES OUT

AND FOR FUCK’S SAKE, IT’S NOT “SIKE”; IT’S “PSYCH”. AS IN “I PSYCHED YOU OUT”; BECAUSE YOU MOMENTARILY MADE SOMEONE BELIEVE SOMETHING THAT WASN’T TRUE.

THANK YOU.

*slams reblog*

IT’S ‘MIGHT AS WELL’. ‘MIND AS WELL’ DOES NOT MAKE GRAMMATICAL SENSE.

SLEIGHT – DEXTERITY, ARTIFICE, CRAFT (FROM ‘SLY’)
SLIGHT – VERY LITTLE, FRAIL, DELICATE

IT’S ‘SLEIGHT OF HAND’.

CAN I ADD TO THIS TOO?

IT’S NOT ‘COULD OF’, THAT DOESN’T MAKE ANY SENSE WHATSOEVER. IT’S ‘COULD HAVE’. SAME APPLIES TO ‘SHOULD HAVE’.

And this is why my students look at me as though I’m the devil when I try to tell them that no i’m not lying this really is a thing

IT’S ‘COULDN’T CARE LESS’ NOT ‘COULD CARE LESS’ IF YOU COULD CARE LESS THAT MEANS YOU CARE

it’s ‘couldn’t care less’ not
‘could care less’ if you could care
less that means you care

^Haiku^bot^0.4. Sometimes I do stupid things (but I have improved with syllables!). Beep-boop!

Please check out Homophones Weakly.

It’s a treasure trove.

And a goddamn delight.

I laughed so hard

The bear running off with the clothes…

Reblogging, but knowing folks will continue to fuck up “definitely”. 😩😩😩

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Look i dont wanna sound like a Fandom Mom or whatever but what do you think women over 25 or so are supposed to do? Do u really think theyre supposed to drop all their interests and just talk about taxes and marriage or whatever? It seems like 25+ year old fanboys do not receive this kind of “ooh cringe” reaction either. There are guys in their 40s with comic book collections and shit and people might think theyre a nerd at worst, not a freak who shouldnt be trusted

Thank you. Because, here’s the thing, I literally tried that. And this sounds really dramatic but it kind of ruined my life for a long time.

Once I got out of grad-school and started working, at exactly age 25, I figured it was time to get serious because I was “too old for this stuff” and frankly I was afraid of being judged. 

I sold all my comics, I stopped reading fanfiction, I stopped playing video games. All of it. It’s not that I never, ever watched anything “geeky” or spent a weekend binge-reading a kink-meme, but when I did, it was rare and I’d feel guilty about it like it was time wasted. I’d keep it all to myself, you know? And without any kind of inspiration, I eventually stopped drawing. After all, I didn’t need it for my “serious job,” so why bother? Unfortunately, my former skill is so atrophied now it’s nearly lost, but worse than that, it’s stressful now instead of the thing I loved to do for most of my life.

What was I doing instead? Well, I’d work my miserable, toxic job, come home and worry about how far behind everyone else I was, and how weird I was compared to all my colleagues. I’d go out with people and do the things they liked doing, but I only pretended to. But I’m not great at that and pretending to be someone else ate me alive. Unsurprisingly, by 31, my anxiety and depression was not in a great place, and I fuckin’ snapped. Not just because of this stuff, of course, but it honestly contributed. I quit my job and left town.

Suddenly I was completely alone, no job, no friends, and no reason to pretend to be someone else. So, I started doing all the things I’d given up. I read all the fanfiction I wanted, I bought a Playstation and an SNES and played them for hours. I bought back every comic book I loved, watched every Marvel movie I missed, and caught up on my favorite characters. I started traveling around just going to cons for the first time (NYCC, GeekGirlCon, DragonCon, etc). In fact, at @geekgirlcon and DragonCon especially, I saw groups of women who were 60+, just fucking enjoying things, and it made me feel so much better about my future. I’m not even joking, I literally cry every time I think about it, because I never realized how scared I was about aging in a world that thinks I’m already a decade too old for the things I love. Suddenly, that wasn’t so scary. 

And then I just stopped pretending that I wasn’t into this stuff. I mean all of it, even the stuff no one understand, even the stuff people openly make fun of, even smutty fanfiction. 

And look, I’m not saying this cured my depression, or that everything is perfect. For one, I picked a city that’s awful for geeks and I’m trying to figure out where to move and how. For another, I lost six years of making like-minded friends, and it’s hard to find them now because we’re all so worried about being judged and online – the space that was always a refuge for me as a loner weirdo growing up – is now apparently a Children of the Corn. But I’m happier here, actually fucking liking things, than being the unobjectionable robot woman I’m apparently supposed to be. 

I don’t expect anyone to actually be interested in this, or have gotten this far, but because I’m having feelings about turning 36 on Monday, I just want to tell anyone who is about to turn 25 that you should just tell people to go fuck themselves. It’s your life. You’re going to offend people no matter what you do, at least choose the direction that makes you happiest, because those people certainly aren’t going to pay for your fucking therapist bills, are they? 🦖

pssst

imma tell you a secret

the people saying you must give up the things you love upon reaching  adulthood are

wrong

aging is terrifying, and im still scared of adulthood and everything it entails, but if you love something, dont let growing up take it away from you

i hit 30 two weeks ago, and you know what? im still playing WoW. im still playing D&D. im still getting unreasonably excited when saturday rolls around and its time to watch the newest episode of My Hero Academia

because being an adult doesnt mean giving up “childish things”. being an adult means being old enough to set your own path and do your own things and pursue your own interests. it means you might have to do your taxes but then you get to rejoice when they’re done by firing up your 3ds and playing pokemon

i go to work every morning in a factory, and every day i bring with me my bag covered in fun pins. my pins include godzilla, star trek, totoro, warhammer, metroid, and other things. i have a bright pink water bottle covered in holographic fish stickers. i have a few fun little toys in my bag: a squirmle, a little lobster finger puppet, sometimes my 3ds

why? because i LIKE those things, and having a job and my own money and adult responsibilities means i can absolutely go to the local card shop and buy some MTG singles or go to the toy store and get a plushie of bowser

my point is, dont stop being you just because youve been on this planet for an arbitrary number of years

now if you’ll excuse me i have some fortnite to play and some warhammer dudes to build because i do what i want and my age doesnt matter

One of the big reasons people are uncomfortable with self described “fandom moms” is that they often put themselves in circles that consist heavily of teenagers and interact with them in ways that is often inappropriate or don’t adjust how they interact with fandom or the medium itself. Often not seeing why things like teenaged fans shipping 15 year olds from a show is perfectly fine but being 30+ and doing that with the same characters can get creepy or cross a line really fast. Likewise teenagers at each other’s throats arguing with eachother about fandom drama is not good but is expected, but 30+ year olds acting the same way about fandom drama largely between teenagers is not at all appropriate.

I don’t think people should need to “"grow out” of their interests, but we really do need to think about how we engage with this stuff and with others then we do get older

I turn 30 this year and my sister in law recently tagged me in a post about an interactive dinosaur display happening nearby, cos she knows how mad keen I am on dinosaurs.

Good friends and family members support your hobbies – even if it’s not the sort of thing they’re interested in, if it makes you happy and they love you then they’re going to be happy for you.

seriously though, I want to echo dimetrodone. It is super important to stay into what you love, but you do have to grow up with it. Consider if you will, a man in his 30′s sharing porn with an 12 year old girl. Creepy right? Same goes for 30 something women exchanging under age porn stories with underage kids. Stay part of the fandoms if you wish, but you need to be careful, cause there are lines you could inadvertently cross. If you can, find fellow fans close to your own age. In the era of the internet, that shouldn’t be too hard. 

The Discourse on Hiiro

I and many others understand the reason as to why Hiiro’s character and her arc may seem different and hard to understand at first.

A lack of proper female antagonists + a lack of proper writing for female characters in general × constant framing of certain traits associated with females as bad ^ MISOGYNY = mindset that looks down on female characters.

However, that is no justification for the stance people have towards Hiiro. There never will be a justification for such behaviour. That is because:

1. It is misogynistic so the field for discussion is already unfair.

2. The stance is hypocritical and every argument made can be dismantled easily.

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Hiiro is stuck in the age of a kid/pre-teen forever.

Hiiro spent more time with Father than Yato did.

Hiiro is a shinki- thus she will always be controlled by those that give her a name.

Father gave her a name first.

Father needs a weapon. Hiiro is a weapon. Hiiro is his weapon. Father carried Hiiro around for a long time. Father carries around a child he knew for a very long time and treats her as a weapon.

Father has her become a Nora for many gods.

Noras are looked down on society.

Father gives her a home. 

Father lets Hiiro and Yato call him Father ; this indicates he wants the two to look at him as a parental figure.

Hiiro sees herself as Fujisaki’s child.

Yato sees himself as Fujisaki’s child.

BOTH were abused by Fujisaki.

A main theme in Noragami is Child Abuse.

Yato had Sakura to teach him to value life. Yato had intervention 

Hiiro did not. She had Fujisaki. She always had Fujisaki.

Yato has the ability to grow up. Thus he can make better judgements as he can look at his younger self and see the mistakes he made.

Hiiro does not. This does not mean she can’t reflect on her actions and grow. SHE TOTALLY CAN. 

The problem is that not being able to grow up makes it hard. Her existence is in a constant state of being a kid/preteen. She can’t look back and see if things are wrong so easily. Not when Fujisaki is is treating her the exact same way as he always had. Hiiro is unfortunately not in a position where she can self- reflect and see whats wrong on her own. Someone needs to show her it is. Just like how Sakura showed Yato. 

And now she does. 

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No one is obligated to like Hiiro as a character. Not liking does not make you misogynistic in the slightest. 

But that does not mean you can put up a double standard to justify your negative feelings towards Hiiro.

There is a reason Adachitoka had Hiiro be a girl and have her come from the same place as Yato yet stay there longer than he did.

There is a reason they framed the looking down on Noras as wrong.

There is a reason they made Heaven’s current status quo have flaws that let them scorn Hiiro. 

And there is a reason they want us to think that the status quo must change.

So to all of you that use such misogynistic reasons (slut-shaming) or victim blaming (Good Victim vs. Bad Victim) to scorn Nora – You are the people Adachitoka are condemning, you are the people they would never like as you are now and you are the people they writing to warn people to never become.

Youre the antagonists of Noragami. 

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So reflect. See just why you think that you hate her. And see if its justified. Re read the series, read metas, find out why people love her. Listen. You may be able to appreciate the story more bc of it.

This doesnt mean you have to love her. Or even like her. But to understand her.

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its kinda scary how your whole life depends on how well you do as a teenager 

oh my god No it doesn’t don’t put this kind of pressure on people?? you can absolutely fuck up in your teen years and continue on to a good life just fine. you can drop out of school, get a GED, still go to college and finish your degree as late as you want. i know people in my school who still haven’t graduated and they’re 26. some older. you can always transfer someplace else, always build yourself up from the ground. after a certain amount of college credits, a lot of schools really don’t care about your high school GED or your SAT scores anymore. if you fuck up in your teenage years you are not a failure!! you can ALWAYS re-invent yourself, always start over. there is always a second chance.

Reblogging this for my followers freaking out over art school/college. I dropped out of high school and never thought I’d get into college as easily as I did. You will be fine!

Fun story my biology professor just told us:  When he was 23 he was married to his wife and worked two jobs to support them since she was in college: gas station attendant and construction worker.  He worked these two jobs because that was the only work he could get since he was at the reading level of a third grader.  

One night he was writing something and his wife noticed he was writing from right to left.  Since she was studying occupational therapy she realized he had a learning disability and started working with him.  He slowly began to learn to read, and at 26 got his GED and went to college.

His first year of college he took the lowest level math course he could take, 001.  Over the years he worked on learning what he needed to, ended up graduating with a biology degree.  He then went on to get his masters and PhD, graduating at the top of his class.  He is now an extremely accomplished biologist and professor.

So don’t let anyone tell you that you’re future is based on your choices as a teenager.

Seriously.  Do not believe this.  You aren’t even stuck with your choices you make in your 20s.  I didn’t start working in my current field until just after my 30th birthday.  It has nothing to do with what I went to school for in my 20s.  My husband has a political science degree, and he’s a sports journalist.

You are not tied to anything.  Go.  Be.

My day job did not exist when I was a teenager. And the idea of trying to be an author was a distant thing on my radar. I thought I was going to be an English teacher. And then I thought I was going to be a music teacher. And then I thought I was going to be a drama teacher.

Also in there: therapist, early childhood educator, then finally: web developer–because by then it was an actual thing that existed. I didn’t actually figure out what I “wanted to do when I grew up” until about eight years ago, when I was 36. I tried pursuing writing when I was 30, stopped, then started pursuing it seriously again when I was 40. 

There is always time to change. And don’t let anyone tell you that high school is “the best time of your life” either, because that’s bullshit too.

Reblogging for my followers. My high school teachers didn’t know what to do with me, and I failed everything but a low photography grade. I thought university wasn’t for me, and settled for marrying a mediocre man who spent all day on Warcraft. Then I went to community college. Now I’m in uni doing a double English and philosophy degree, just back from America. I am also single.

Also important: College is not the only option. Don’t let anyone try to tell you it is. If you’re not academically inclined, the trades are an option and they are a good option– if the only thing you think you’re good at is make-up do that. There are people who can live comfortably just doing make-up. We have this idea planted in our heads as teenagers (and younger) that not fitting into an academic mould of some sort means you’re failing at life and this is bullshit. There’s no reason to feel like you’re “failing at life” because you don’t like school or were never good at it. We need skilled workers in the world, and the thing they don’t tell you is all work is skilled work. If it’s work, it takes skill. Yes, this encompasses “service” jobs, it encompasses all jobs. Please don’t think that what you do, or what you have an interest in doing is of less value than something that requires a college education. This coming from the college-educated white girl who is a seamstress because it’s what I enjoy. If college isn’t going to get you where you want to go, than you don’t need to go! It’s that simple. Take whatever path you need to get to where you are happy and comfortable and fufilled. If you’re doing what you love you are sucessful.

i didn’t graduate with my bachelor’s until i was 26 and life took a few turns along the way but now, at 37, i have a job that makes me genuinely happy. and it’s got nothing to do with how well i did in high school.

This! This make me cry… I’m 23 and I really don’t know where I’m going, so reading this kinds of storys makes me feel hope!

I love all this support and inspiring stories, but what I think op was getting at was that our teachers/parents/elders ingrain this idea in us that if we fuck up in our teens, we fuck up everything. So don’t ever let adults make you feel less for needing/spending more time to achieve your goals. You’re still amazing if you get a degree at 24 or 44 or even not at all

for everyone needing this as much as i do right now